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Gerard pauses for a minute then looks down, unbuttons his pants, and carefully slides the zipper down. He starts to wiggle them down his hips, but they're really fucking tight, and he's having trouble. "Fuck," he says, kind of under his breath.

Gerard keeps trying to push them down, and Frank tries really hard to pretend he's not noticing. Gerard's making it hard, though, as he uses both hands and squirms around even more, even bumping into Frank a few times. Frank's concentrating so hard on not watching the epic struggle between Gerard and his pants that when Gerard suddenly stops moving he glances over, only to see that after all that, Gerard has only succeeded in getting them halfway down his ass.

Frank can't help it then and collapses onto his other side, cracking up. "Pants: one; Gerard: zero," he gasps out between giggles.


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Asking the internet

Oct. 23rd, 2017 12:49 am
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Does anyone have a recommendation for either of these things?

A) Wireless/bluetooth headphones, under $50.
B) Non-down comforters, also under $50. (And not a duvet insert. I don't want to buy a COVER for my BEDCOVER.)

I'm at the pre-hunt stage, so any and all links would be appreciated. Helps me narrow down what I'm looking for (and what I discover I'm definitely not looking for. XD )

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Oct. 22nd, 2017 11:49 pm
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6/18 used.
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But I can tell you, without question, that this is the Istanbul we went to.

The cats and dogs of Istanbul are its best rebels. Cats wander freely through the fences of military installations, eating and shitting and pissing where they like in between long suspicious stares at passersby. Just behind the military museum behind the big scary military apartment building you definitely should not take a picture of, a ring of statues rolls clockwise through Turkish history. There is a statue of Attila the Hun, and Timur the Lame, and then Ataturk, huge and bronze and gesturing in the general direction of a blood-red Turkish flag.

A dog sprinted across the park, circling and setting down in the grass to gnaw a bone he'd found somewhere. Two other dogs followed in tow, waiting with all the intensity of a thousand suns for the hound to drop it. He ignored the soldiers and the signs and the other dogs and everyone else, gnawing on a meal at the feet of the father of the nation.


The Istanbul Derby: Soccer, Fire, and a Game at the World's Crossroads

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Oct. 22nd, 2017 08:38 am
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Fannish people with money, [community profile] fandomlovespuertorico currently has a lot of bargains and very few bidders.

GIP

Oct. 21st, 2017 05:01 pm
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At long last, I have a Sharon icon!

Next mission? Make a Roslin icon that I can use for my Official AD&T Business pseud on the Archive. I'm not allowed to use anything from the Baltar interrogation, no matter how hot she looked.
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If you’re feeling disconnected, if you are having a hard time engaging in the world and it feels like no one sees you, if you are having a hard time finding joy or finding the will to strive towards goals you have wanted, here’s a little refocusing pep talk.


First of all, it is no great mystery right now why you are having a hard time connecting. I don’t know who you are and I don’t know your life, but I know if you have a soul and are aware of what’s going on in the world as a compassionate person, you are probably stressed, worried and afraid, even if you are leading a sheltered and/or privileged existence.


And if you aren’t leading a sheltered existence, if you’re struggling with pain, illness, financial stress, housing stress or discrimination, the past year has made all those things a lot worse.


It is this way for pretty much every compassionate soul I know.


There are things you love to do, things you are very good at, things that usually provide you joy, and if you were NOT under a huge amount of stress, they’d probably still be working right now.


Because I’m a giant nerd, I’m going to put this in computer terms.


When your system is new, and hasn’t gotten bogged down, you may have plenty of emotional resources on top of what you need to get out of bed in the morning. That 8 gigs of RAM is great when you haven’t loaded all your worries.bin and intrusivethoughts.dll and Politics.exe.


When shit gets real, your entire processor, RAM and disk drive get completely sidetracked by dealing with the cognitive and emotional demands of dealingwithcrap.html.


EVERYTHING slows down. Nonessential processes get ignored. Essential processes don’t work very well.


I’m not going to tell you there’s a magic solution, but I can tell you where the problem ISN’T and give you some strategies for freeing up resources in the short term.



  1. The problem is not you. This shit is genuinely, objectively hard. Literally everyone is struggling with it. Rich celebrities are struggling with it, and they can literally buy all the stress relief that money can buy… but they can’t just fix the problem.

  2. Just because it’s hard for everyone doesn’t mean that your struggle is small or irrelevant. Survivor’s guilt or “Privilege guilt” from not having to struggle with EVERY issue will not help the people who are dealing with worse, and it will not help you. It is understandable to have thoughts about “But other people have it worse!” But please do not use that as a reason not to give yourself a break for struggling with what is, objectively, hard, even if it isn’t objectively the “hardest”. (Literally everyone thinks there’s someone worse off than them. And they’re right. It doesn’t MATTER in the triage of “Do you get to feel bad.” Yes. You can feel bad.

  3. “Other people are coping better! If someone who is disabled can cope so well, why can’t I?” First of all, that idea can fuck off. I can tell you that for me, a disabled person, one of the reasons I can do some of the things I do is that my inability to do all the things that people normally do means that that stuff has been picked up by a support system I am lucky to have,

    If you see someone on a prosthetic leg running marathons, it’s because they had the support system to get that prosthetic leg, the physical training to learn how to use it, medical care, etc… they did not just magically wake up in the morning as an amputee with no resources and run a marathon. I’m not out running marathons because my disability precludes that kind of exercise and it’s not a reasonable goal for me to have.


There are a fair number of accomplishments which can bend to sheer force of will, but even force of will (read: sustained focused effort) is a RESOURCE that not everyone is good at, and some people who sometimes have a strong force of will, do not ALWAYS have a strong force of will in every situation.


So, how to free up resources?



  1. Forgive yourself up front. It’s hard enough dealing with all the shit without having to deal with your own self-flagellation. It’s a hard habit to get out of. Use self talk. “This is legitimately hard. Anyone would have a hard time with this. I’m not a bad person for having difficulty with a difficult thing.”

  2. Break things into manageable chunks.

  3. If your phone has a calendar function, put everything into it. Operate under the assumption that you’re having a hard time and let yourself lean on the tools available to keep track, even when your brain is not registering everything. You do not need to store your entire calendar in your brain. Set up reminders.

  4. Look for ways to streamline. I fill a pill-minder with my meds every two weeks, and the ones that don’t go in the pill-minder are literally the first thing I see when I sit up in bed in the morning. This saves a lot. If you have an elaborate hair and makeup routine, if it is too much, look for ways to simplify. When purchasing clothes, look for ways to minimize your decision-making. Don’t waste cognitive function on trivial shit that can be managed structurally.

  5. Block out specific time to check on current events and pay attention to the national shitshow… and ONLY that time. Don’t wallow for 8 hours at a stretch on the national news, it is NOT good for your mental health. It is possible to take in the full horror in under an hour per day. You can’t fix it all, but you can pick which issues you devote time to and what kind of time you spend.  Aggregators like WTF and even Late Night hosts can help streamline the process of checking in with less stress than watching national news.

  6. Allow yourself down time. It’s hard to be social when everyone is so stressed.

  7. If you need connection, sometimes structured activities, volunteering, church if you go (there are very progressive churches available) are easier than casual social events.

  8. Reach out online. You are not alone.


Now, there are going to be times when you really just have to get shit done. When you need your brain to shut the fuck up for a bit and let you DO.


Here are the SHORT TERM tricks to get your brain in gear.



  1. Compartmentalize. Need to go have a job interview? Need to take a test? Time for some visualization. Picture all the shit that is weighing you down, every intrusive thought, as things that you can pack into an envelope or a picnic basket or hell, a U-haul if they’re big enough. Put ‘em all in. Every one of them. Close up the basket and set it down inside your front door. When you walk out that door, all that stuff stays at home. It will be there when you get back, we’re not throwing it out. Just don’t take it with you to school, to your job interview. DO pick it back up when you get home. We’re not burying it, we’re just giving it a time and place.

  2. Some of the intrusive worries may be livelier than others. If they try to follow you out the door, or show up when you don’t want them, give them the name and voice of someone you don’t like or trust and would dismiss out of hand. “You’re terrible at this.”

    “Shut up, Kellyanne, no one trusts you.”

    “Just hit the snoozebutton, it doesn’t matter.”

    “Fuck off Chad, I’m getting up.”

    It just needs to be someone you would roll your eyes at.

    (h/t to the Check please fandom for this one, IDK who posted it first, but it stuck with me as one of the most useful things I’ve ever learned online.)

  3. Be nice to your future self by taking care of literally everything you possibly can the night before. Pick out clothes. Decide what you will eat. Have a checklist if you need to. Find everything that needs finding while you’re awake. I know this sounds overly organized but it’s something I’ve had to do because if I didn’t, mornings were hell and involved me driving people places when I wanted to be asleep because we missed a bus. It is ten times easier to find clothes when you’re not supposed to be out the door in ten minutes. This is all done cognitively. Some people do these things instinctively? I guess? I don’t. I have to think about every single step every time. But it’s worth it to not have a panic attack when I’m trying to get someplace important and am ending up late. When I was still responsible for getting my kids to school, I could get my middle child from sound asleep to the bus in about 7 minutes because everything was completely set up ahead of time.


Anyway. I hope some of this helps. If nothing else, remembering that this is a reasonable response to unreasonably stimulus has helped me immeasurably.



Health, LIfe, Mental Health
http://jenrose.com/tricks-for-dealing-with-feeling-disconnected/
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1) make the days REALLY REALLY BIG because of course I need to know the calendar day. But not month...

1a) remove the month from the day heading, because of course I don't need to know what month a day is in (it does this even on the "month changes during the week" weeks, going from 31 (for October) to 1 (for November), whyyyyy)

2) make the time of day REALLY REALLY SMALL because of course I don't need to know what times things are

3) decide to get REALLY REALLY CONFUSED about how to handle dual calendar systems, even though it had no issue with that before



note: the "all day events" section is tall and mostly empty in the Old Google Calendar one because further on in the week, I have a lot of stacked all day things; that's my RL calendar. The new version is the fandom calendar, which has much fewer things cluttering it up


Old google calendar:
google calendar old version


New google calendar:
google calendar new version

What's been going on.

Oct. 17th, 2017 10:45 am
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It's been a long time since I've made a personal life update and that's because it's been kind of lousy. I might as well say something though.

Two months ago we bought a car. This set us back financially, since the dealership was incompetent and took weeks to get us the title so we could get the BMV to give us a proper license plate. (Uber won't accept bills of sale. Just so you know.)

Last month, I totaled the car because I'm a fucking idiot??? So that fucked with our income even more, because you obviously can't drive a car you don't have.

Last week we finally got a new ("new") car -- we were waiting to see if the old one was actually totaled or if they were going to fix it. Thanks for taking so long on that front, Allstate and Gerber.

We've been getting by thanks to the in-laws and some friends helping us out, but it's still been a major drain in energy and productivity. It looks like we'll be fine now, though.

Today's Major Crimes spoilers

Oct. 17th, 2017 01:37 am
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[personal profile] sarken
As a result of this spoiler-y interview with James Duff, Major Crimes fandom is a little bit losing its shit about Sharon's storyline this season. And I get that. I lost my shit, too!

But. (Spoilers, particularly after the first three paragraphs.) )
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"Wait, if you're here, where's our Frank?" Gerard interrupts.

"Isn't it like, a rule that you aren't supposed to go back in time and meet yourself?" Ray says. "Or forward, I guess."

They're both glaring at him suspiciously, like he somehow killed his future self. He can't do that, right? Unless he like, canceled his future self out by suddenly existing or something. He didn't see any other Frank around, unless he was like, hiding under the bed or something.

"He was only in there for a second!" Mikey says. "So how is he even here in the first place?"

"Yeah," Frank says wildly. "But you remember me coming back, and I'm still around, I mean, I was till now, so that means I'll go back soon and everything will be normal again. Right?"


- [archiveofourown.org profile] auctorial's Too bad I don't remember a thing
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Major Crimes series finale spoiler, kinda. )

And then I will cry exactly the same way I cry every time I watch Third Watch's finale and it ends with Bosco still doing his thing. Every time.

(Apparently I cry thinking about that, too. Wow. Misty eyes over here, hello.)

In fact, I reject any other ending to this series.

ETA: No, wait, I know what it'll be: Read more... )
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Allow me to take a moment off from talking about game consoles in human form, in order to talk about game consoles in game console form. Specifically, the Nintendo Switch, and how Sony basically handed the market to them.

Discussion of expensive personal electronics and capitalists behaving badly )

By making the "Switch" functionality core to the console itself, Nintendo is neatly sidestepping all the incompatibility BS that Sony built in to their products. It's a fresh start, a requirement for all Switch games going forward, and it's one that I strongly approve of.

Now I just need to cross my fingers, and hope that either the Neptunia series winds up on the Switch like the Atelier series already has, or that Sony gets their act together. Portable game consoles have been my treasured companions and comfort objects ever since I was little, and while I like being able to stream my games on Twitch or a TV I don't like being disconnected from them when I can't get to one.

All the noise, noise, noise

Oct. 15th, 2017 12:35 pm
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I've mentioned before that the property behind my house is a cow field. The cows had calves, as they do, and the calves frolicked through the field, as they do.

A couple of days ago, the farmer separated the cows and the calves, as they do. (Gotta wean the calves, sell them later, that sort of thing.) This particular farmer uses a fence-line weaning process, which is ... pretty much what it sounds like. The cows and calves are being kept apart by just a fence. Which means all those cows can still see and hear the calves.

Which means there has been CONSTANT MOOING for the past two days.

Now, it's less stressful for the calves to get weaned this way - they don't use up a lot of strength or lose excess weight by walking around looking for their dams. But the noise. The calling and calling. Allllll that mooing. Egads.

Dead Man's Help Wanted

Oct. 15th, 2017 07:00 am
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I watched Help Wanted the other day, which is not at all an infrequent occurrence, and I still believe that if I could only watch one episode of television for the rest of my life, it would be that.

I'll never not fixate on the moment during the raid where Brenda's trying desperately to figure out where the suspect went and Sharon is the one who asks the questions that focus Brenda. First of all, I find it interesting that the men who work with Brenda every day can't or don't do this, but the woman who is an outsider steps in. Second, I love it because it's who the characters are: Brenda is disorder and Sharon is order. But this time, there was a new thing I noticed -- the drastic shift from the last episode they shared, Dead Man's Hand. That episode shows us what it looks like when Brenda's thinking gets muddied by her feelings toward Sharon. It straight up tells us, multiple times, that a guy dies because Brenda lets her judgement get so clouded by her dislike of Sharon. And we go from that to Brenda saving multiple young women because Sharon gives her clarity. So I'm just a little 😍 over here.

Dear Creator - Holidays!!! on Ice

Oct. 15th, 2017 10:43 am
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Dear Creator for Holidays!!! on Ice,

Firstly thank you! I'm really looking forward to whatever you produce. If you want to know more about what I like you can see the sort of art I reblog here on tumblr or you can see my fic bookmarks here on ao3. I also made a longer list of likes and dislikes here.

Best Wishes
Qem


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